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Where Real Confidence Comes From: Truths Black Men Never Talk About

October 06, 2025 • Season 2 • Episode 5

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Uncovering what confidence really means for Black men

In this powerful episode of Four Titles, One Truth, Tommie and Lance dig beneath the surface to answer the question: Where does confidence truly come from?

We take you on a journey through our own stories — from the seasons of self-doubt, to breakthroughs, to the people, habits, and trials that shaped the confidence you see now.

You’ll hear how culture, identity, expectations, failures, and environments all played roles.

This isn’t about flashy motivational “be confident” talk — it’s real, raw, and practical for Black men, husbands, veterans, and all who want that inner backbone.

What we cover:

•Origin stories of confidence — when we first felt “less than”

•Failures, rejections, and how they forced growth

•People & rituals that reinforced self-belief (mentors, faith, discipline)

•Cultural pressures, expectations, and hidden battles

•Confidence vs arrogance: keeping humility in the climb

•How to build sustaining confidence in a world built to tear it down

Whether you already project confidence or still whisper your value — this episode is for you.